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Gospel: Mark 10: 2-16
The Pharisees approached Jesus and asked,
“Is it lawful for a husband to divorce his wife?”
They were testing him.
He said to them in reply, “What did Moses command you?”
They replied,
“Moses permitted a husband to write a bill of divorce
and dismiss her.”
But Jesus told them,
“Because of the hardness of your hearts
he wrote you this commandment.
But from the beginning of creation, God made them male and female.
For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother
and be joined to his wife,
and the two shall become one flesh.
So they are no longer two but one flesh.
Therefore what God has joined together,
no human being must separate.”
In the house the disciples again questioned Jesus about this.
He said to them,
“Whoever divorces his wife and marries another
commits adultery against her;
and if she divorces her husband and marries another,
she commits adultery.”
And people were bringing children to him that he might touch them,
but the disciples rebuked them.
When Jesus saw this he became indignant and said to them,
“Let the children come to me;
do not prevent them, for the kingdom of God belongs to
such as these.
Amen, I say to you,
whoever does not accept the kingdom of God like a child
will not enter it.”
Then he embraced them and blessed them,
placing his hands on them.
The Gospel of the Lord.
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When I first read this Gospel passage, my mind drifted to an old Rodney Dangerfield comedy skit, when he turned to the audience and said:
“My wife tells me she’s leaving me.”
To which I responded, “What, is there somebody else?”
She said, “There’s gotta be!”
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When confronted with hard teachings from Jesus, it’s always helpful to start with a little humor.
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But the Pharisees had a knack for asking Jesus questions for which there was no good answer. They were always rooted in the controversial topics of his day:
“Teacher, if a woman marries seven different brothers, whose wife will she be in the resurrection?”
“Should we pay taxes to the emperor?”
And today, “Is it lawful for a man to divorce his wife?”
If Jesus were living in 21st century America, the Pharisees might ask him, “Teacher, are you a Democrat or a Republican? What is your stance on immigration? COVID? The vaccine? The Second Amendment?”
Any answer Jesus gives will get him in trouble with someone. Today’s Gospel is no exception.
Ultimately, what the Pharisees are doing is pitting Jesus against two different sides: God’s perfect dream for humanity versus the reality we all live in: a post-Garden of Eden, imperfect world.
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I remember being ten years old sitting on my living room couch after school, trying to process the sudden and surprising truth that my own parents were getting divorced.
That taught me a tough lesson: nobody’s perfect, not even the adults I idealized most, my parents.
But no one lives up to God’s ideals in every facet of life; we all fall short somewhere. Divorce is only one example.
Perhaps the best approach, then, is to honor both sides: to embrace God’s dream for us while also acknowledging the fact that, in spite of our best efforts, we’re still imperfect.
We’re all broken somewhere and need to be put back together.
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The Japanese have a fascinating art form called Kintsugi.
When a dish breaks, for example, they don’t just throw it away and buy another one. They piece it back together using glue mixed with gold.
They say that breakage and repair are all part of the history of that object. The focus is not on why the object broke, but on the fact that it was restored.
I find that to be a beautiful way to understand Christianity, and the difference that God can make in our lives.
Like a broken bowl, haven’t we all been cracked beneath the surface somewhere?
Whether our marriage has ended in heartbreak, we are overcome by addiction, we struggle with loneliness or low self-esteem, or we feel the pain of loss, life has a way of breaking us.
But broken hearts – and by extension, broken lives – can be restored. It’s what our faith is all about.
“For I did not come to call the righteous,” Jesus says, “but sinners.” The broken ones. The ones who understand their need for God’s mercy.
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So, where are the cracks in our moral or spiritual lives? In what ways are we broken?
Or, better said, in what ways do we need to be put back together?
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The Pharisees had a knack for asking Jesus questions for which there was no good answer. Their mission, it seems, was to box him into a corner. Because of their hardness of heart, God couldn’t do any good for them.
But we who see Jesus as the Divine Healer can be put back together. Those marks of gold and glue become part of our story – and, I’m sure, a beautiful one at that.
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Image credits: (1) Pantocrator (2) Rayden Solicitors (3) The Expulsion of Adam and Eve, National Gallery of Art (4) Onmanorama
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