Best practices in resolving family conflict (A morning meditation)

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Acts 15: 7-21

After much debate had taken place,
Peter got up and said to the Apostles and the presbyters,
“My brothers, you are well aware that from early days
God made his choice among you that through my mouth
the Gentiles would hear the word of the Gospel and believe.
And God, who knows the heart,
bore witness by granting them the Holy Spirit
just as he did us.
He made no distinction between us and them,
for by faith he purified their hearts.
Why, then, are you now putting God to the test
by placing on the shoulders of the disciples
a yoke that neither our ancestors nor we have been able to bear?
On the contrary, we believe that we are saved
through the grace of the Lord Jesus, in the same way as they.”
The whole assembly fell silent,
and they listened
while Paul and Barnabas described the signs and wonders
God had worked among the Gentiles through them.

After they had fallen silent, James responded,
“My brothers, listen to me.
Symeon has described how God first concerned himself
with acquiring from among the Gentiles a people for his name.
The words of the prophets agree with this, as is written:

    After this I shall return
        and rebuild the fallen hut of David;
    from its ruins I shall rebuild it
        and raise it up again,
    so that the rest of humanity may seek out the Lord,
        even all the Gentiles on whom my name is invoked.
    Thus says the Lord who accomplishes these things,
        known from of old.

It is my judgment, therefore,
that we ought to stop troubling the Gentiles who turn to God,
but tell them by letter to avoid pollution from idols,
unlawful marriage, the meat of strangled animals, and blood.
For Moses, for generations now,
has had those who proclaim him in every town,
as he has been read in the synagogues every sabbath.”

The Word of the Lord.

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What Discernment Is and Isn't | Hillsong Church Watch

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Families can argue about the most ordinary things.

Growing up, my brother and I argued over whose turn it was to sit in the front seat of the car; what we wanted for dinner; whether or not I could wear his clothes; or whether or not his friends could also be mine.

Parents can argue over how to raise their children, where to go on vacation, how much money to spend on a home, how to best communicate, and so on.

What arguments arise in your family?

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Debate also happens within the Church. Jesus didn’t leave us a “how to” manual for every problem or an answer to every question. Instead, he gives us his Holy Spirit, who leads us to the Truth.

The Acts of the Apostles describes how the early Church discerned answers to significant questions together.

In today’s reading, for example, the question arises: must Gentile converts follow Jewish practices? Or is following Christ alone enough? How exactly is one saved?

The Apostles discerned the answers to their questions in three ways: they prayed together, they fasted, and they broke bread, meaning they celebrating Eucharist.

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What if we applied the same practices to our own friendships and families? 

When conflict arises, pray together – ask for wisdom and humility, fast, then break bread together at Mass. If the first Christians found God working in these ways, certainly the Lord can still do so today.

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Why God is like a Gardener (A morning meditation)

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Gospel: John 15: 1-8

Jesus said to his disciples:
“I am the true vine, and my Father is the vine grower.
He takes away every branch in me that does not bear fruit,
and everyone that does he prunes so that it bears more fruit.
You are already pruned because of the word that I spoke to you.
Remain in me, as I remain in you.
Just as a branch cannot bear fruit on its own
unless it remains on the vine,
so neither can you unless you remain in me.
I am the vine, you are the branches.
Whoever remains in me and I in him will bear much fruit,
because without me you can do nothing.
Anyone who does not remain in me
will be thrown out like a branch and wither;
people will gather them and throw them into a fire
and they will be burned.
If you remain in me and my words remain in you,
ask for whatever you want and it will be done for you.
By this is my Father glorified,
that you bear much fruit and become my disciples.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

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Tips on Spur and Cane Pruning Your Grape Vines – Grow Organic

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Over the last few months, I’ve developed an interest in gardening.

Some of you may have seen me watering the twenty-one trees recently planted on campus. I love watching their progress as the branches reach for the sky and their flowers brightly blossom with pink petals.

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A basic lesson in gardening is that there are two types of branches – those that bear fruit and those that don’t.

We’ve all seen those withering branches. They’re dark, limp, and slow to die. Yet even as they wither, they demand energy from the vine.

It’s a fascinating truth: withering branches take energy to die. 

That’s why a gardener is trained to prune them; withering branches sap energy from the vine without bearing any fruit. 

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In the Gospel, Jesus says, “I am the true vine, and my Father is the vine grower. He takes away every branch that does not bear fruit.”

God wants to prune all those withering branches from our lives that sap our time and energy without bearing fruit.

Consider unhealthy habits, destructive relationships, or lingering grudges. Although these “branches” drain our energy, they can be hard to let go of.

We need the Lord to do the pruning. 

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What are the withering branches in my life? Where do I spend time or energy without bearing fruit?

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May the Lord, the Divine Gardener, prune our hearts, making us happier, healthier people.

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Cane & Spur Grapevine Pruning: What's the Difference?

Image credits: (1) The San Diego Union – Tribune (2) Grow Organic (3) Silver Oak Cellars

Living Like Saint Paul (A morning meditation)

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Acts: 14: 19-28

In those days, some Jews from Antioch and Iconium
arrived and won over the crowds. 
They stoned Paul and dragged him out of the city,
supposing that he was dead.
But when the disciples gathered around him,
he got up and entered the city. 
On the following day he left with Barnabas for Derbe.

After they had proclaimed the good news to that city
and made a considerable number of disciples,
they returned to Lystra and to Iconium and to Antioch.
They strengthened the spirits of the disciples
and exhorted them to persevere in the faith, saying,
“It is necessary for us to undergo many hardships
to enter the Kingdom of God.”
They appointed presbyters for them in each Church and,
with prayer and fasting, commended them to the Lord
in whom they had put their faith.
Then they traveled through Pisidia and reached Pamphylia.
After proclaiming the word at Perga they went down to Attalia.
From there they sailed to Antioch,
where they had been commended to the grace of God
for the work they had now accomplished. 
And when they arrived, they called the Church together
and reported what God had done with them
and how he had opened the door of faith to the Gentiles.
Then they spent no little time with the disciples.

The Word of the Lord.

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On This Rock: The Stoning of Paul the Apostle

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It’s another tough day for Saint Paul. 

As it says in our first reading from the Acts of the Apostles, “They stoned Paul and dragged him out of the city, supposing that he was dead.”

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Imagine Paul barely breathing… covered in rubble… left for dead.

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Suddenly, that pile of rubble starts to shake. A dusty and bruised Paul emerges victoriously. 

Once taken for dead, he’s now alive again.

You might say that scene foreshadows the resurrection. Paul knows that the day will come when he is laid in a tomb one final time.

But he also knows that – like today – he will rise from the rubble. He’s not afraid; he’s seen the Risen Christ and knows that this is his destiny, as well. 

As he later writes says, “O death, where is your sting? O grave, where is your victory?”

Paul is so convinced of the resurrection that he cannot help but share this news with the world; he’s like a man in love who has to tell everyone about the one who stole his heart.

So, he stands up, shakes the dust from his feet, and continues to preach until he draws his very last breath.

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What would it look like for us to have the faith of Saint Paul? 

Would our behavior change? Would our burdens feel lighter?

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“This is the will of my heavenly Father,” Jesus says, “that you believe in the One he sent.”

In a word, that you live like Saint Paul.

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Outline of Jesus - Wikipedia

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Image credits: (1) Bartolomeo Montagna (2) On this Rock: The Stoning of Paul the Apostle (3) Jesus Christ by Heinrich Hofmann