Happiness and Heaven: Maybe God is leading you to a place you never imagined.

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Gospel: Mark 8: 27-35

Jesus and his disciples set out
for the villages of Caesarea Philippi. 
Along the way he asked his disciples,
“Who do people say that I am?” 
They said in reply,
“John the Baptist, others Elijah,
still others one of the prophets.” 
And he asked them,
“But who do you say that I am?” 
Peter said to him in reply,
“You are the Christ.” 
Then he warned them not to tell anyone about him.

He began to teach them
that the Son of Man must suffer greatly
and be rejected by the elders, the chief priests, and the scribes,
and be killed, and rise after three days. 
He spoke this openly. 
Then Peter took him aside and began to rebuke him. 
At this he turned around and, looking at his disciples,
rebuked Peter and said, “Get behind me, Satan. 
You are thinking not as God does, but as human beings do.”

He summoned the crowd with his disciples and said to them,
“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself,
take up his cross, and follow me. 
For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it,
but whoever loses his life for my sake
and that of the gospel will save it.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

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Many of us remember Billy Graham, perhaps the most popular American preacher of the 20th century.

He once shared a story about his wife, Ruth, who drove for several miles through a construction zone. After carefully following the detours and warning signs, she came to the last sign that read: 

“End of construction. Thank you for your patience.”

Struck by the message, she went home chuckling, telling Billy that she wanted that line engraved on her tombstone. And when the time came, it was.

“Ruth Bell Graham. June 10, 1920 – June 14, 2007. End of construction. Thank you for your patience.”

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Isn’t life itself like a construction zone?

There’s patience needed, imperfect paths, detours, potholes, a cacophony of noises, and winding roads leading us to places we never thought we’d go. 

Part of being human means that we’re “under construction,” a work in progress.

While we might have the big picture in mind – we want to find a share of human happiness and, in the end by the grace of God, get into heaven – the way we reach these goals is often very different from the path we had in mind.

Consider the life of Saint Peter.

He, too, desired happiness and heaven, but he found them after taking many detours and winding roads.

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We are now half-way through Mark’s Gospel, and today Peter’s journey takes a pivotal, unexpected turn as Jesus declares:

“Whoever wishes to come after me must deny himself, take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wishes to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for my sake and that of the Gospel will save it.”

This is far from the straight, smooth path Peter imagined for his future with Jesus. What about the glory, the honor, the royal banquets, and his role as a trusted advisor in Christ’s kingdom here on earth?

It seems Peter’s dreams are being shattered right in front of him. Imagine the thoughts racing through his mind. He has already left his job, his home, and his family in order to follow Jesus. Are all of these efforts for nothing? Is it all ending abruptly in death?

Stunned, Peter pulls Jesus aside and says, “Surely, this cannot be!” 

In trying to prevent God’s divine will from unfolding, Peter becomes like Satan – scandalous; an obstacle; a stumbling block. He’s ignoring the signs.

So, Jesus corrects him, telling him to, “Get behind me.” This gesture of standing behind Jesus implies that, even when Peter doesn’t understand, he must learn how to follow. This was the first lesson Christ taught him.

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Remember how it all began. 

The morning they met, Peter was returning to shore after a fruitless night of fishing. 

Suddenly, the Lord greeted him, got into his boat, and told Peter to head back out to sea. Once they were far enough out, Jesus commanded Peter to drop his nets. Upon pulling them out of the water, miraculously, they were bursting at the seams!

Then the Lord extended the invitation: “Come, follow me. I will make you a fisher of men.”

Notice the Lord did not reveal his plans to Peter; he did not mention anything about a cross; he did not appeal to Peter’s mind, asking, “What do you think about our future?”

Rather, he appealed to Peter’s feet

“Follow me.”

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At times we all need the reminder to follow the Lord “feet first,” especially when life becomes more of a detour than a journey on a perfectly paved road. 

A malignant diagnosis, a closed door, a winding path we never thought we’d walk, may, in fact, be where the Lord is leading us.

Like Peter we don’t always understand… and we certainly don’t want to accept it. So, we protest, saying, “Surely, this cannot be!” 

But the Lord says to us what he said to Peter, “Get behind me.” 

Follow me feet first.

As the prophet Isaiah foretells, “will lead the blind on their journey. By paths unknown will guide them. will turn darkness into light before them and make crooked ways straight.”

It wasn’t until Peter saw the empty tomb that he understood the paradox of our faith; God alone makes crooked paths straight. 

Even death he turns into life.

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May Peter pray for us, that we who remain “under construction,” would make every effort to follow the Lord feet first, humbling accepting the detours and winding roads until we can say with him:

End of construction. Thank you for your patience.

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A healthy way to view ourselves and others.

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Gospel: Luke 6:39-42

Jesus told his disciples a parable:
“Can a blind person guide a blind person?
Will not both fall into a pit?
No disciple is superior to the teacher;
but when fully trained,
every disciple will be like his teacher.
Why do you notice the splinter in your brother’s eye,
but do not perceive the wooden beam in your own?
How can you say to your brother,
‘Brother, let me remove that splinter in your eye,’
when you do not even notice the wooden beam in your own eye?
You hypocrite!  Remove the wooden beam from your eye first;
then you will see clearly
to remove the splinter in your brother’s eye.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

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Growing up in the South, watermelon was always a sweet summer treat.

It’s a unique taste, almost like juicy Styrofoam that magically melts in your mouth. I remember the first time my niece tasted it. As the juice dripped down her cheeks, she stared up at us in delight!

There’s only one thing you must remember when eating watermelon: spit out the seeds. We were told as kids that if you didn’t, then a watermelon would start growing inside your stomach!

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But we all have “seeds” inside of us. Not those literal dark, grainy kernels, but things we should get rid of.

Some struggle with managing their temper. Others with jealousy; greed; selfishness; addiction; lust; or any other sin. While it’s easy to spot these dark spots – “seeds” – inside other people, it can be harder for us to acknowledge and work on getting rid of our own.

Stop judging, the Lord tells us in today’s Gospel, because to some extent, we’re all guilty; blind; in need of spiritual growth.

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Perhaps this can be our focus for today: Focusing on what is good in other people – and within ourselves – instead of what isn’t.

Much like a slice of watermelon: spit out the seeds and savor what is sweet.

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Christ makes the sour things sweet.

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Gospel: Luke 6:27-38

Jesus said to his disciples:
“To you who hear I say, love your enemies,
do good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you,
pray for those who mistreat you.
To the person who strikes you on one cheek,
offer the other one as well,
and from the person who takes your cloak,
do not withhold even your tunic.
Give to everyone who asks of you,
and from the one who takes what is yours do not demand it back.
Do to others as you would have them do to you.
For if you love those who love you,
what credit is that to you?
Even sinners love those who love them.
And if you do good to those who do good to you,
what credit is that to you?
Even sinners do the same.
If you lend money to those from whom you expect repayment,
what credit is that to you?
Even sinners lend to sinners,
and get back the same amount. 
But rather, love your enemies and do good to them,
and lend expecting nothing back;
then your reward will be great
and you will be children of the Most High,
for he himself is kind to the ungrateful and the wicked.
Be merciful, just as also your Father is merciful.

“Stop judging and you will not be judged.
Stop condemning and you will not be condemned.
Forgive and you will be forgiven.
Give and gifts will be given to you;
a good measure, packed together, shaken down, and overflowing,
will be poured into your lap.
For the measure with which you measure
will in return be measured out to you.”

The Gospel of the Lord.

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Have you ever tasted a Sour Patch Kid?

It’s a gummy candy rolled in sugar. When you first taste it, a Sour Patch Kid is incredibly sour like a lemon. But the more you chew it, the sweeter it becomes.

To me, it’s an appropriate image for understanding today’s Gospel – one of Jesus most difficult teachings: “Love your enemies.”

To avoid leaving this as an abstract ideal, the Lord even specifies what, exactly, we are to do:

“Do good to those who hate you; bless those who curse you; pray for those who mistreat you; turn the other cheek; and from the one who takes what is yours, do not demand it back.”

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Understandably, we might ask: Why should we love those who hate us? And how is that possible?

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Perhaps “why” is easier to answer than “how.” 

As followers of Christ, we should follow his example. And the Lord tells us plainly, “God himself is kind to the ungrateful and the wicked.”

Studies have also shown that holding onto anger – or worse, hatred – negatively affects our own mental, physical, and emotional health; it’s like drinking poison, then hoping it will kill your enemies.

We love those who hate us, not only because God does, but also because doing so improves our own wellbeing.

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But how do we do this? 

Saint Thomas Aquinas once said, “Grace builds upon nature.”

Meaning, God requires an open heart before he pours his grace into it; he will not force himself upon us. But if we open our hearts to the Holy Spirit, then slowly, Christ will make our heart his own.

Ultimately, it is he – not us – who does the loving and forgiving, because God alone turns the sour things sweet.

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